Here lately, there has been a commercial with an older couple making the rounds. It’s about some product to clean your floors. She’s telling him about how clean it gets her floors, and him not realizing how dirty the floors can get, or something like that.
Not being disrespectful, but they seem to be in their late 70s, or early 80s, and have been married a long, long time, and they just seem to fit together.
Both look like they walk a little slow, maybe just a little forgetful, but it’s television. I kind of wonder if they are really married, you never can tell these days with actors, but there is something there, and if you look closely you might catch it.
They tend to finish each other’s sentences, which is something not every body can do, just someone who has known you for a long, long time.
To be honest they kind of reminded me of some people I’ve known, my folks and Mel’s. And to be honest, I kind of thought I was seeing a picture of me and Mel in the not to distant future.
Oh sure, we all have our quirks, just like our folks, but there was something else too. They really loved each other. Me and Jess were talking one day, and I told her I knew that Brook was getting serious.
Of course she wanted to know if he had said something. I told her he didn’t have to. I could tell by the way he walked with her.
That made no sense to her whatsoever. I said the next time y’all are walking, take a second to notice where he’s at. Look over your right shoulder, he’ll be right there.
I bet you don’t believe me. Next time you’re in Walmart, look around at the older couples walking around, those that have been married for years. Guess what you will see?
Another thing I noticed about older married folks is the older they get the more adventurous the ladies get and the less the men do. Face it guys, if it wasn’t for them, other than hunting and fishing, we wouldn’t leave the house. Around our house it’s not me who asks where you want to go on vacation. Same with our folks. Nellie loved the beach, Tooney liked working on cars.
But once a year he would help her pack up and go. My mom — there was no telling where she wanted to go: The beach, the mountains, Dolly Wood, somewhere else. She wasn’t going to stick around the house all the time. They were retired, they weren’t dead yet!
The point I’m trying to make is, while Tooney could have cared less about the beach, and Dad had done enough traveling in his life to fill a lifetime, wherever Nellie and D.C. wanted to go was fine with them, as long as they were with them. Because they had in a sense evolved, no longer where they just man and wife, or Mom and Dad, they were best friends.
Remember back when you were little, and you had a best friend. The first thing in the morning, you wondered where they was at? If you had a sandwich, they had half.
If you had a Coke, they had half. If you were going somewhere, the first words out of your mouth were “Can they go?” And if they couldn’t, face it, you were miserable.
And if I were to take a guess, that’s what we are losing in a lot of our marriages today. We get all caught up in the marriage side of things. We tend to forget that the first thing about getting married is friendship.
Though that use to be a death sentence when you were dating, some girl saying she just wanted to be friends. But shouldn’t it be like it was when you were little? Half your sandwich, half your Coke, and not wanting to go if they couldn’t.
That’s what I got from that commercial, not some cleaning product, but finishing each other’s thoughts, finishing each others sentences, and holding the chair while she climbed in it.
And sharing a Coke on a hot summer evening just like friends, the way old married folks do.
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